{"id":2417,"date":"2025-12-21T09:56:00","date_gmt":"2025-12-21T09:56:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/?p=2417"},"modified":"2025-12-20T19:57:19","modified_gmt":"2025-12-20T19:57:19","slug":"romantitzar-lautisme-es-perillos-la-veritat-que-moltes-families-viuen-en-silenci","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/romantitzar-lautisme-es-perillos-la-veritat-que-moltes-families-viuen-en-silenci\/","title":{"rendered":"Romantitzar l&#039;autisme \u00e9s perill\u00f3s: la veritat que moltes fam\u00edlies viuen en silenci"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure class=\"wp-block-video\"><video height=\"1920\" style=\"aspect-ratio: 1080 \/ 1920;\" width=\"1080\" controls src=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/ADS1_-COB_Basta_de_romantizar_el_autismo-VEED-VEED.mp4\"><\/video><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Hi ha una frase que em surt amb for\u00e7a, perqu\u00e8 l&#039;escolto massa en consulta, a escoles, en converses entre professionals i en xarxes:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Alg\u00fa ho ha de dir: nom\u00e9s cal romantitzar l&#039;autisme.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I no ho dic per apagar esperan\u00e7a. Ho dic per protegir-la.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perqu\u00e8 quan convertim l&#039;autisme en un relat \u201cbonic\u201d sigui com sigui, el que fem sense voler \u00e9s esborrar una part de la realitat que moltes fam\u00edlies viuen cada dia. I quan aquesta realitat s&#039;esborra, tamb\u00e9 s&#039;esborra el dret al suport.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vull dir-ho amb proximitat i amb respecte: <strong>no tothom pot parlar de l&#039;autisme des del mateix lloc<\/strong>. No \u00e9s el mateix mirar des de fora que sostenir-ho des de dins. No \u00e9s el mateix compartir un post inspirador que viure tota una nit sense dormir perqu\u00e8 el teu fill est\u00e0 desregulat, o perqu\u00e8 tu est\u00e0s en alerta constant esperant la propera crisi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I aqu\u00ed hi ha el punt: quan el discurs p\u00fablic s&#039;omple de frases boniques, moltes fam\u00edlies senten que no tenen perm\u00eds per dir la veritat. I si no hi ha perm\u00eds per dir la veritat, tampoc no hi ha espai per demanar ajuda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Romantitzar no \u00e9s respectar<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\">________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Romantitzar sona b\u00e9. Sembla una manera de defensar la neurodiversitat. Per\u00f2 hi ha una difer\u00e8ncia enorme entre <strong>celebrar<\/strong> i <strong>maquillar<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Celebrar la neurodiversitat \u00e9s recon\u00e8ixer que hi ha altres maneres de percebre, sentir, aprendre i <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/https-cristinaorozbajo-com-autisme-i-llenguatge-comunicacio\/\">comunicar<\/a>. \u00c9s mirar la persona amb <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/10-idees-per-fer-a-casa-amb-nens-amb-autisme\/\">autisme<\/a> amb dignitat, sense pena i sense estereotips. \u00c9s deixar d&#039;exigir \u201cnormalitat\u201d com a condici\u00f3 per al respecte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Romantitzar, en canvi, \u00e9s convertir una condici\u00f3 neurol\u00f2gica en un esl\u00f2gan: \u201c\u00e9s un superpoder\u201d, \u201cs\u00f3n tots genis\u201d, \u201cnom\u00e9s pensen diferent\u201d. I aquesta simplificaci\u00f3 t\u00e9 un cost.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perqu\u00e8 <strong>no \u00e9s bonic<\/strong> quan un nen s&#039;autolesiona perqu\u00e8 no pot <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/https-cristinaorozbajo-com-autisme-i-llenguatge-comunicacio\/\">comunicar<\/a> dolor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No \u00e9s inspirador quan una fam\u00edlia deixa de sortir de casa per por d&#039;una crisi en p\u00fablic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No \u00e9s m\u00e0gic quan uns pares no dormen als mesos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I negar aix\u00f2 no ajuda ning\u00fa. Nom\u00e9s deixa la gent sola.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">El parany emocional: quan all\u00f2 \u201cbonic\u201d es converteix en silenci<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\">________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Hi ha un parany molt perill\u00f3s en aquesta romantitzaci\u00f3: la culpa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si el missatge social \u00e9s \u201caix\u00f2 \u00e9s un superpoder\u201d i tu est\u00e0s esgotada, espantada o trista, \u00e9s f\u00e0cil que aparegui aquesta idea verinosa: \u201cjo s\u00f3c la que falla\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I no. No falles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Est\u00e0s vivint una mica complex. I el que \u00e9s complex necessita suport, no frases boniques.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Moltes mares i pares se senten obligats a somriure en p\u00fablic, a justificar-ho tot, a demostrar que \u201cho porten b\u00e9\u201d. I per dins estan trencats, cansats, amb por, amb una solitud que no es veu a Instagram.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La romantitzaci\u00f3, encara que sembli positiva, es pot convertir en una forma d&#039;invalidaci\u00f3: si tu dius \u201cm&#039;est\u00e0 costant\u201d, alg\u00fa et respon \u201cper\u00f2 mira&#039;l com un regal\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I aqu\u00ed hi ha una reivindicaci\u00f3 clara: <strong>no es pot demanar a una fam\u00edlia que converteixi el dolor en poesia perqu\u00e8 el m\u00f3n ho toleri<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">El mal real de romantitzar l&#039;autisme<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\">________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Romantitzar no \u00e9s neutral. T\u00e9 conseq\u00fc\u00e8ncies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1) Culpa per a les fam\u00edlies<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quan el relat dominant diu que \u201c\u00e9s un superpoder\u201d, moltes fam\u00edlies senten que no tenen dret a estar malament. I aix\u00f2 \u00e9s cruel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perqu\u00e8 estar malament no vol dir no estimar. Estar malament vol dir estar cansat. Significa estar sostenint molt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I quan una fam\u00edlia se sent culpable per estar cansada, deixa de demanar ajut. I quan deixa de demanar ajuda, es queda sola.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2) Minimitzaci\u00f3 professional (i retard en els suports)<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quan es romantitza, tamb\u00e9 es minimitza. I quan es minimitza, s&#039;hi interv\u00e9 tard o s&#039;hi interv\u00e9 malament.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Es normalitzen senyals de patiment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S&#039;interpreta la desregulaci\u00f3 com a \u201cmanipulaci\u00f3\u201d o \u201cdolenta conducta\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S&#039;espera que el nen \u201cs&#039;adapti\u201d sense eines.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Es confon inclusi\u00f3 amb pres\u00e8ncia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I aix\u00f2 no \u00e9s respecte. Aix\u00f2 \u00e9s abandonament amb bona intenci\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Com a professional, t&#039;ho dic amb honestedat: <strong>la bona intenci\u00f3 no compensa la manca d&#039;eines<\/strong>. I el preu el paga el nen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3) Incomprensi\u00f3 social<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si la societat creu que el <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/diagnosticant-lautisme-amb-la-mirada\/\">autisme<\/a> \u00e9s \u201cnom\u00e9s ser diferent\u201d, aleshores no ent\u00e9n per qu\u00e8 calen adaptacions, suports, recursos, acompanyament.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No ent\u00e9n per qu\u00e8 una fam\u00edlia necessita ajut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No ent\u00e9n per qu\u00e8 una aula necessita estructura.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No ent\u00e9n perqu\u00e8 una persona autista pot necessitar suports tota la vida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I quan la societat no ent\u00e9n, jutja. I quan jutja, a\u00eflla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4) Retallades de recursos<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I aqu\u00ed ve el m\u00e9s perill\u00f3s: quan alguna cosa es percep com a \u201cno tan greu\u201d, els recursos es redueixen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Menys suports a l&#039;aula.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Menys atenci\u00f3 primerenca.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Menys formaci\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Menys acompanyament a fam\u00edlies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Menys temps per intervenir de deb\u00f2.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I despr\u00e9s ens sorprenem que hi hagi burnout docent, fam\u00edlies desbordades i nens patint.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">L&#039;autisme pot ser bonic i desafiador alhora<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\">________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La reivindicaci\u00f3 no \u00e9s \u201ctot \u00e9s terrible\u201d. La reivindicaci\u00f3 \u00e9s <strong>la veritat completa<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>El <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/10-idees-per-fer-a-casa-amb-nens-amb-autisme\/\">autisme<\/a> \u00e9s una condici\u00f3 neurol\u00f2gica que pot portar fortaleses reals: sensibilitat, mem\u00f2ria, focus, honestedat, creativitat, formes \u00faniques de veure el m\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I tamb\u00e9 pot portar desafiaments reals: <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/https-cristinaorozbajo-com-autisme-i-llenguatge-comunicacio\/\">comunicaci\u00f3<\/a>, regulaci\u00f3 sensorial, flexibilitat, ansietat, somni, alimentaci\u00f3, autonomia, <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/el-joc-i-les-interaccions-amb-lobjecte-a-lautisme\/\">interacci\u00f3<\/a> social.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No hem de triar cap extrem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Podem dir: <strong>hi ha bellesa i hi ha dificultat<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Podem estimar profundament els nostres fills i, alhora, recon\u00e8ixer que hi ha coses que fan mal i que costen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Podem celebrar la neurodiversitat sense negar el patiment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I aix\u00f2 \u00e9s important: <strong>recon\u00e8ixer la dificultat no \u00e9s ser negatiu<\/strong>. \u00c9s ser honest. I l&#039;honestedat \u00e9s el primer pas per fer suports reals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"940\" height=\"788\" src=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/basta.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2419\" title=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/basta.png 940w, https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/basta-300x251.png 300w, https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/basta-768x644.png 768w, https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/basta-14x12.png 14w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 940px) 100vw, 940px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">All\u00f2 que l&#039;autisme no necessita (i el que s\u00ed)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\">________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>L\u00b4autisme no necessita ser romantitzat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Necessita ser compr\u00e8s.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I comprendre no \u00e9s opinar. Comprendre \u00e9s mirar amb criteri:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Qu\u00e8 est\u00e0 <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/https-cristinaorozbajo-com-autisme-i-llenguatge-comunicacio\/\">comunicant<\/a> aquesta conducta.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Qu\u00e8 est\u00e0 desregulant aquest nen.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Quins suports necessita per participar-hi.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Quins par\u00e0metres necessita l&#039;entorn.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Quines eines necessita la fam\u00edlia.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>La comprensi\u00f3 es tradueix en accions concretes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I aqu\u00ed va una altra reivindicaci\u00f3: <strong>no podem continuar demanant a les fam\u00edlies que aguantin<\/strong>. Hem de demanar als sistemes que responguin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Respecte + suport: el m\u00ednim per parlar de dignitat<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\">________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si hagu\u00e9s de resumir-ho en una frase, seria aquesta:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>El respecte sense suport queda curt.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perqu\u00e8 el respecte real es demostra quan el sistema respon:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Amb <a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/https-cristinaorozbajo-com-autisme-i-llenguatge-comunicacio\/\">comunicaci\u00f3<\/a> funcional (no nom\u00e9s \u201cque parli\u201d).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Amb entorns preparats (no nom\u00e9s \u201cque s&#039;adapti\u201d).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Amb formaci\u00f3 pr\u00e0ctica per a professionals.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Amb acompanyament a fam\u00edlies.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Amb recursos sostenibles, no pegats.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>I tamb\u00e9 amb una cosa que sembla petita, per\u00f2 no ho \u00e9s: amb un canvi cultural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Que deixem de mirar les fam\u00edlies com a \u201cexagerades\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Que deixem de demanar-los que siguin herois.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Que deixem de fer servir la paraula \u201cinclusi\u00f3\u201d com a decoraci\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Una invitaci\u00f3: comparteix la teva veritat<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-right\">________________________________<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si ets mare, pare, professional o una persona autista i et travessa aquest tema, et llegeixo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>COMPARTEIX LA TEVA VERITAT.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No per discutir qui t\u00e9 ra\u00f3, sin\u00f3 per obrir espai a all\u00f2 que moltes persones callen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La veritat no treu esperan\u00e7a. La veritat la col\u00b7loca on ha de ser: a les eines, a la comprensi\u00f3 i al suport real.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I si ets a Espanya i necessites orientaci\u00f3 professional per al teu cas (fam\u00edlia, centre o docent), pots escriure&#039;m des del formulari de <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/contacta-amb-el-teu-especialista-en-pedadogia-a-barcelona\/\">Contacte<\/a><\/strong>. De vegades no cal m\u00e9s for\u00e7a: cal un pla, eines i acompanyament.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hay una frase que me sale con fuerza, porque la escucho demasiado en consulta, en colegios, en conversaciones entre profesionales [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2419,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[218],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2417","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-autismo"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2417","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2417"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2417\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2421,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2417\/revisions\/2421"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2419"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2417"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2417"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cristinaorozbajo.com\/ca\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2417"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}